Rafa was like being with a superfit bird, who was pretty smart too and said all the right things. And put out with a cracker in bed from the first date. It's great, you can see yourself get narried, you don't listen to the voice that asks 'biut is she the one' because you don't believe in those things anyway. After a few years, some of the shine comes off. She's still lovely, but she has a few personality issues. And eventualy, becomes an absolute bore in bed. Part of you want sto give her another chance, because you know she could be amazing, she was before. Another part of you wonders why she's not taking care of herself and if she is gonna let those love handles keep growing. A big fight ensues and you break up. Out of self-loathing, you have a brief fling with that ugly bird from school who always fancied you but was never good enough for you. You could have gone back to your ex but you were in a dark place at the time and it wouldn't have turned out right. Then, a bit later, you're feeling ebtter and see clearly enough to dump her and she comes back in your life. And you remember what true love feels like. No question of whether you might marry her or if it will work out. You just know you are soulmates for life because you want to give her a big sloppy kiss everytime she opens her mouth. I love you Kenny. PS. No homo.