Jump to content
By fans, for fans. By fans, for fans. By fans, for fans.

The kids you grew up with


Earl Hafler

Recommended Posts

Anyone still like to keep in touch with them or know what's happening where you grew up ?

Just found out that a lad i went to school with has died in hospital after being assaulted. He was in the hospital for 4 days but police are not connecting his death with the assault .This may sound strange but can be explained by him being the town guinea pig - back in the clubbing days, whenever a knew pill came on the scene, he would take several on a night out and wouldn't be seen for days.

This led to harder drugs and the rest of his life spent as a smack rat. Last time i saw him years ago, he looked like someone had tried to axe his face in half and was forced to use a walking stick for the rest of his life. He won't be missed, as he's been a stain on this Earth for most his life but when i heard about it, i thought about all those that knew him when he was younger and that not one of them will be present at the funeral, if he has one.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Replies 112
  • Created
  • Last Reply

Top Posters In This Topic

I'm still in touch with and close to a bunch of mates I got to know just after I arrived in England, aged 7. From school there are all sorts of stories, my school was small - like 500 kids from 1st-5th years as they were back then (11 to 16) we had no 6th form.

 

A whole bunch has happened - one kid killed himself, he was bullied at school; don't know whether they were linked - he killed himself in his 20s. Another went down for some car crash where one of the kids in the year below us was killed, another - a really nice lad I didn't know that well though - woke up dead one day, no drugs or anything. Just died in his 20s in his sleep, his dad found him next morning when he went to wake him.

 

Pretty scary to think that in your school year of say 100 - that a few of you aren't going to make it to 40, I pity their parents & it's obviously the biggest fear I have in my life, that I'll be one of those parents - I look at my daughter's friends and school year & sometimes think that not all of them will see it through their 30s.

 

No-one I was at school with & knew became famous, but a lot of the total loonies are really sound now, it was just a case of misplaced teen aggression & lack of sound parenting but didn't cost them dear

Link to comment
Share on other sites

The ones I used to hang out with when I was 13-14 are the ones I still hang out with. Except for one who met a girl when he was 16 and was never heard from again. It was weird, it wasn't gradual at all. It was just one day he was doing things with us as usual and the next he just stopped completely. Unconfirmed reports say they have kids and live in Sweden now. We all felt terribly rejected by this to be honest!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

ive got a very small tight knit circle of very close friends. Ive always been of the opinion if you can count your real mates on the fingers of more than one hand then you're kidding yourself. my closest friends are 3 lads i knew from before i even started primary school, and a couple i have known since i moved to England 11 years ago. a lot of other friends i knew from growing up in Ireland have emigrated. we still keep in touch through facebook and the like, but similarly to Macca, of the people i grew up with and was friendly with, a few for various reasons, car accidents, a suicide, a drowning, are no longer with us. Its bizarre this, cos a few days ago i was looking at a picture of an under 12s 5 a side team i played in that won a tournament in 1988, and of the 7 of us in the picture, 2 are dead.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I'm still in touch with and close to a bunch of mates I got to know just after I arrived in England, aged 7. From school there are all sorts of stories, my school was small - like 500 kids from 1st-5th years as they were back then (11 to 16) we had no 6th form.

 

A whole bunch has happened - one kid killed himself, he was bullied at school; don't know whether they were linked - he killed himself in his 20s. Another went down for some car crash where one of the kids in the year below us was killed, another - a really nice lad I didn't know that well though - woke up dead one day, no drugs or anything. Just died in his 20s in his sleep, his dad found him next morning when he went to wake him.

 

Pretty scary to think that in your school year of say 100 - that a few of you aren't going to make it to 40, I pity their parents & it's obviously the biggest fear I have in my life, that I'll be one of those parents - I look at my daughter's friends and school year & sometimes think that not all of them will see it through their 30s.

 

No-one I was at school with & knew became famous, but a lot of the total loonies are really sound now, it was just a case of misplaced teen aggression & lack of sound parenting but didn't cost them dear

Yeah, it's weird. There was a lad i saw regularly during the 90's on nights out - same spot in the same place at the same time sort of thing - up until l i moved and then never saw him again. Few years ago someone told me he'd died from a blood disorder. Can't have been 30. Another lad i remembered from school but never spoke to was found dumped in a skip. Think it's still unresolved.

Got a few famous friends from back then but aside from a couple of people from school, my closest friends are from the 90's onwards. There was a period of a few years in the early to late 90's where everyone would meet up or turn up at the same house - no mobiles etc - and spend whole weekends like Diceman. Crazy and hilarious stories that people think we're making up when we tell them. Finish work on the Friday, meet in the pub and not see your own bed til Monday.

 

ive got a very small tight knit circle of very close friends. Ive always been of the opinion if you can count your real mates on the fingers of more than one hand then you're kidding yourself. my closest friends are 3 lads i knew from before i even started primary school, and a couple i have known since i moved to England 11 years ago. a lot of other friends i knew from growing up in Ireland have emigrated. we still keep in touch through facebook and the like, but similarly to Macca, of the people i grew up with and was friendly with, a few for various reasons, car accidents, a suicide, a drowning, are no longer with us. Its bizarre this, cos a few days ago i was looking at a picture of an under 12s 5 a side team i played in that won a tournament in 1988, and of the 7 of us in the picture, 2 are dead.

There's a wedding photo with friends and me on it like that. Been to too many funerals and not even 40. Brett, who you met briefly in the pub before he managed to insult you, Kahn and Will in one sentence, died three years ago. Stopped in a hotel the night of the England v Germany World Cup game ( after acquiring the services of an escort ) and choked to death on his own vomit. So many mad tales about stuff we did and there's no one to reminisce with.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

No contact with anyone I knew form primary, a few from secondary, loads/most from 18,19, 20, 21, and after, probably an a*****, but I didn't miss my first school at all, second not a lot. That said, I'm actually quite down about not having lifelong friends, but there are at least good reasons why not

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I'm still in contact with a couple from school. only because of facebook.

Only two from back then are close friends - knew them both before secondary school. One ended up at the same school as me - the other at the rival school. they are the kind of guys that you could turn at their door with a body and a shovel and ask for help and they wouldn't bat an eyelid. We are all off to vegas next march - not for the first time!! Scary thing is one of them is bringing his son - my godson.. he's old enough to drink there now...

 

 

famous folks - I knew James Frain through the acting side - he was head and shoulders above everyone else then. Didn't keep in contact with him though. Odd that his IMDB profile has his age as being younger than me - when me and my friend Paul were the two youngest in the year... can't imagine how that happened.

 

Its tough keeping in contact with people - even more so when you keep moving thousands of miles at a time..

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Well this thread has cheered my day up anyway.

 

My best mate from back in school is still my best mate although he lives in NYC these days. I keep in touch with a couple of others from school, but by in large my mates have changed as I've changed footy teams. Good mates with a few of the lads from my Sunday football team now.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I'm still in touch with and close to a bunch of mates I got to know just after I arrived in England, aged 7. From school there are all sorts of stories, my school was small - like 500 kids from 1st-5th years as they were back then (11 to 16) we had no 6th form.

 

A whole bunch has happened - one kid killed himself, he was bullied at school; don't know whether they were linked - he killed himself in his 20s. Another went down for some car crash where one of the kids in the year below us was killed, another - a really nice lad I didn't know that well though - woke up dead one day, no drugs or anything. Just died in his 20s in his sleep, his dad found him next morning when he went to wake him.

 

Pretty scary to think that in your school year of say 100 - that a few of you aren't going to make it to 40, I pity their parents & it's obviously the biggest fear I have in my life, that I'll be one of those parents - I look at my daughter's friends and school year & sometimes think that not all of them will see it through their 30s.

 

No-one I was at school with & knew became famous, but a lot of the total loonies are really sound now, it was just a case of misplaced teen aggression & lack of sound parenting but didn't cost them dear

 

And one grew up to achieve recognition through having the worst hair cut of all time.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

My best mate Ive known since nursery ....but we werent the biggest of mates until secondary school, he lives in Kildare now so we dont see each other that much unfortunately but we still have regular phone calls and theyre still the times I laugh the most. From the street I grew up on I keep in regular contact with a couple, one is my cousin and one is Duncan Disorderly...apart from that my other real mates were all made after I left school and went to college of biz in belfast so age about 17/18. Since then Ive made mates etc in jobs and knocking about etc but those I consider the ones who'll help me bury the bodies were all made before 18...and even though some live far away we keep in regular contact.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Still in touch with a few friends from school, some who were both primary/secondary. They're my oldest pals which counts for a lot, we started drinking, chasing girls etc together so good memories

 

Added to that mob with university friends and a few other randoms throughout the years. Always find it annoying that all my best pals don't live in the same City as me...selfish c**ts

 

 

 

and yeah, a couple of people I went to school have died either in accidents or through illness. Depressing stuff

 

Another couple have made it big career wise. Also a bit depressing, depending on what mood I'm in

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Maybe it's a sign of getting old that reminiscences start to include counting dead people.

 

There's a couple of people in Liverpool I'd have seen when I came home but I don't have any numbers and the pubs they'd have been certain to be drinking in are changed or closed. No one from school but the schools catchment area was the whole of Liverpool and there were only a few I'd see outside of school. No one from either FE or HE colleges other than some people on FB, the reason I got it, then got in touch with some people who are still really cool but what do you speak about after 20 years?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

then got in touch with some people who are still really cool but what do you speak about after 20 years?

 

My best mate that i was really close with from the age of about 13 onwards, we sort of drifted apart when we were in our mid 20's for no particular reason and then he went to live in America in his 30's for a good while.

 

Made a conscious effort last summer to get back in touch after his return to the UK so probably about a 15 year gap, we've since visited each other a few times and our wives and kids get on really well. Its been great and hasn't felt awkward at all.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

My best mate that i was really close with from the age of about 13 onwards, we sort of drifted apart when we were in our mid 20's for no particular reason and then he went to live in America in his 30's for a good while.

 

Made a conscious effort last summer to get back in touch after his return to the UK so probably about a 15 year gap, we've since visited each other a few times and our wives and kids get on really well. Its been great and hasn't felt awkward at all.

 

I think you had greater history there, as above I went to a school 30 miles or so from where I lived so there was a massive difference between how I got on with mates during holidays and how others did all year round. I also think you change as people between 13 and mid 20's and as you were close during all that it has a better chance of not being weird.

 

I think the main thing for me and the people I knew at university is that was a very specific time in my life with some very specific interests, it was boss like but I think a lot of the friendships I formed during that time were extremely superficial because I kinda was.

 

I do think it's cool when you can pick up with people though like it adds to what went before

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.

×
×
  • Create New...